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Ungodly soul ties must be cut

Repent/ Soul Ties
God calls us to love Him with all our soul. Yet we can be enticed away from God by those that are “as our own soul” and compromise our full devotion to our Heavenly Father. Such relationships form the foundation for ungodly soul ties.

(See Chinese versions: 體中文 > 切斷不敬虔的魂結 | 简体中文切断不敬虔的魂结)


If we are not careful with the soul ties we form, we may even compromise our immortal souls.

Matthew 22:36-37 ESV  “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?”And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.

Deuteronomy 13:6 ESV “If your brother, the son of your mother, or your son or your daughter or the wife you embrace or your friend who is as your own soul entices you secretly, saying, ‘Let us go and serve other gods,’ … 

Matthew 16:26 For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?

We can be undone by ungodly soul ties

The apostle Paul warned us not to be “unequally yoked” in the ties we form with people. In this context, he told the Corinthian church to beware of the influence that idol worshipping family members and friends had on their lives. The idea of being “yoked” is to be unequivocally attached together. One may say that the Hong Kong dollar is yoked to the American dollar. When the American dollar drops in value, so does the Hong Kong dollar. They cannot be separated nor move in opposite directions. Similarly, we too inadvertently move in the same direction as those we form very close ties with, including those who do not follow God.

2 Corinthians 6:14 ESV  Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 

Even the wisest of people can make this mistake. Take King Solomon for example. Despite all his God-given wisdom, the king failed to recognise when the loyalty of his soul to God was slowly eroded after he fell under the influence of numerous wives that worshipped idols and evil spirits. He built them idolatrous temples and even bowed down to their demonic gods. Solomon formed ungodly soul ties with these pagan women and this eventually led to dire consequences for the kingdom of Israel (See 1 Kings 11:4-6,11).

The Bible teaches us not to be too attached to anything of this world and to be yoked to Jesus.

1 John 2:15 ESV  Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

Matthew 11:29 ESV  Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

There are a number of ways we may form ungodly soul ties. Here are a few examples.

1. Sexual connections

God created man and woman to become one flesh, to be bonded together like glue, when they enter into a sexual relationship. In a godly marriage, we form godly soul ties that celebrate the intimacy that God intended for us. It ties spouses together in a strong union where two souls become intertwined.

Genesis 2:24 ESV  Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Similarly, we can also form ungodly soul ties through immoral sex, which destroys us spiritually. The Bible says that sexual immorality and intercourse outside marriage only leads to spiritual death. Having sex with a prostitute for instance, joins a person’s soul with the prostitute – as well as all of his or her previous clients’ souls.

Proverbs 5:3-5 NLT For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey… But in the end she is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.

2. Emotional connections

We can also form ungodly soul ties with people with whom we have developed strong emotional ties from childhood, such as our parents and family members, where we end up doing whatever they want. They can become as close “as our own soul” and their desires can become as powerful as our own. At times, it can be so overpowering that it is hard to obey God and love Him with all our souls.

The same can happen when it comes to soul ties between friends. Take for example, the soul tie that King Saul’s son, Jonathan, had with the king’s attendant, David. The Bible says Jonathan’s soul was “knit to” or joined with David’s. Jonathan risked his own life and even disobeyed his own father in order to save David. Jonathan’s soul tie with David was stronger than the one he had with his own father.

Another type of soul tie that we can form is with objects that we turn to for emotional comfort rather than God. Such objects, which includes toys, blankets or lucky charms, become our idols. We know we have formed ungodly soul ties with these objects when we form such strong emotional bonds that we never want to part with them.

Deuteronomy 13:6 ESV  “If your brother, the son of your mother, or your son or your daughter or the wife you embrace or your friend who is as your own soul entices you secretly, saying, ‘Let us go and serve other gods,’ …

1 Samuel 18:1 ESV  As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.

3. Mental connections

The Bible calls us to have the mind of Jesus Christ, who focused on pleasing His Heavenly Father and fulfilling His will. We are called to renew our minds so that we can discern and follow God’s perfect will.

1 Corinthians 2:16 ESV  “For who has understood the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him?” But we have the mind of Christ.

Our patterns of thinking are influenced by different sources, and if we are not careful, we will start to follow other people’s thoughts, wills and ideas instead. Some examples could include philosophers, doctors, scientists, the media, supervisors, and people we idolise. Other ungodly soul ties include those we form with worldly doctrines such as consumerism, materialism, secularism, socialism and so forth. All these form the basis of ungodly soul ties through their influence on our minds.

4. Spiritual connections

We can also form soul ties with people either by praying for them and sharing testimonies that release them from spiritual bondage. These are ways we come alongside people spiritually. This does not mean we stop ministering to others. It just means we must remember to pray to cut off ungodly soul ties after prayer, particularly when it comes to deliverance from evil spirits.

1 Corinthians 14:15 … I will pray with my spirit, but I will pray with my mind also…

Another form of ungodly soul ties includes those that we form with idolatrous or religious organisations that propagate half-truths and false teachings. We need to test everything that claims to be from God and not come under ungodly influences. These include religious cults, schools, fraternities, clubs, and communities that claim to be Christian but encourage its members to do ungodly things. Not everything that is done in God’s name is godly.

Human relationships affect our relationship with God

1. Biblical evidence: We move in unison with others after we bond deeply with them

King Saul’s son, Jonathan, formed a very strong soul tie with David, his father’s attendant. The Bible says Jonathan’s soul was “knit to” or joined with David’s soul. Jonathan risked his own life and even disobeyed his father in order to save David. Jonathan’s soul tie with David was stronger than the one he had with his own father.

1 Samuel 18:1 As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.

2. Scientific evidence: We move in unison with others after we bond deeply with them

This ability to form strong ties is woven into our brains. Researchers from the University of Virginia have shown that the human brain is wired to connect with others so strongly that it experiences what other people experience as if it’s happening to us. MRI brain scans in the research study showed that the part of our brains that is responsible for threat response also become active if our friends are threatened. “The correlation between self and friend was remarkably similar,” said James Coan, a psychology professor in U.Va.’s College of Arts & Sciences who co-authored the study. “The finding shows the brain’s remarkable capacity to model self to others; that people close to us become a part of ourselves, and that is not just metaphor or poetry, it’s very real.”

3. Practical evidence: We move in unison with others after we bond deeply with them

We all know of relationships that have a very strong effect on us, particularly our relationships with our parents. Whatever they say can become the “truth” for us – so much so that we find it hard to follow God. For instance, if our parents harbour prejudices against certain people, we will find it hard to love them as God loves them. The devotion of our souls to God must be so paramount that we appear to “hate” our closest influences by comparison. Only in this way can we follow God with all our souls.

Luke 14:26 NLT  “If you want to be my disciple, you must hate everyone else by comparison–your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters–yes, even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple.

Cutting ungodly soul ties

The soul that sins dies spiritually. Being joined with a sinful soul that is rotting with spiritual death is certainly not healthy for us. We should cut ungodly soul ties that we have formed with other sinners and renew the allegiance of our souls to God alone. By doing so, we disallow any spiritual darkness from other sinners to influence us.

Ezekiel 18:20 The soul who sins shall die…

This does not mean we must end all our relationships. It just means we should practice saying a prayer to cut off ungodly soul ties after each interaction that is spiritual in nature. For example, we may need to cut off soul ties with people we have prayed with, but don’t need to do so if we simply had a meal with them. There are, however, ungodly relationships with the occult that we must end forever. This means we must cut all contact with sorcerers, feng shui masters, and fortune-tellers, occult godfathers and never be in touch with them again.

1. Identify those whose influence dominates our thinking

There are times when someone’s influence on our lives is so strong that we don’t realise it because they have already become so much a part of us. Often, these are people that we cannot imagine life without. Such relationships clearly threaten our undivided love for God in our souls.

If we are unsure if we have formed ungodly soul ties with anyone, we must ask God to show us who they are, and to restore our souls and lead us in paths of righteousness once again.

Psalm 23:3 He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

2. Repent of ungodly relationships

Any time we make a person’s words or relationship more important to us than God, we must repent. These may include unhealthy submission or ungodly emotional ties to our parents, spouses, teachers, pastors etc. Ungodly soul ties also form through sex outside of marriage. We also need to repent for sexual sins before we cut off soul ties with sex partners.

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

3. Forgive

Next, it is important to examine our hearts for people we need to forgive. Those with whom we have formed ungodly soul ties may be amongst the hardest to forgive or let go of.

4. Cut all ungodly soul ties

We can then pray like this, “In the name of Jesus, I cut off ungodly soul ties with (name the persons) and all curses related to them.”

Examples of people whom we may form ungodly soul ties with include:

  • Family members who practice idol worship and any form of witchcraft.
  • Relatives, friends and business associates who have spoken curses over us.
  • People who have undue influence over our thinking.
  • Practitioners of witchcraft, such as feng shui masters, yoga instructors, Chinese medicine professionals who practice qigong, etc.
  • Anyone with whom we have committed fornication, including ex-lovers, one-night stands, prostitutes, intentional sexual arousal with masseurs, cybersex partners and so forth.
4. Cut ungodly soul ties after ministering to others

When we minister to or pray for others, we must be careful to always cut off any unclean influences afterward. This does not mean we stop ministering to people. It just means we must remember to pray to cut off ungodly soul ties after prayer, particularly after we engage in spiritual warfare.

2 Corinthians 6:16-17 ESV  What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said… Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you,

5. Remove soul-tie objects

Another important step is to discard or destroy anything that is sentimental or symbolic of ungodly relationships through sexual immorality, witchcraft, and idol worship. Please do not hold onto such items.

If we struggle to let such items go, it is a sign that the soul tie still supersedes our relationship with God, and we have not really fully cut ungodly soul ties. Below is a testimony that illustrates this point.

1 Thessalonians 5:23 Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Testimony: Soul-tie objects

For 30 years, I have shared my bed with two baby pillows since birth. No matter where I went, I would bring at least one pillow with me. I couldn’t sleep without them. Whenever I was overwhelmed with heartbreak or stress, the first thing I turned to was my pillows.

My husband would often suggest to let go of these baby items but I resisted. I told him, “They came before you and have stuck by me for longer.” We had a few tiffs about my pillows – until I learned about soul ties.

I realised my heart was yoked to these items. I was allowing mere objects to defile my heart, my soul, and my marriage. Convicted, I repented and asked for God’s forgiveness one evening. Then I grabbed the pillows, trembling and sobbing, and put them in the garbage bin. I prayed and cut soul ties with the pillows, and rededicated myself fully to God. Now, I don’t even miss them! And my husband certainly hasn’t.

When I cry now, I cry to God, the One who sees and hears everything and loves me. Praise God!


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