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How to encourage someone who’s disheartened

We have all been discouraged or disheartened in our Christian walk at one time or another. When a mentee approaches us for encouragement, it is a great opportunity to show them how they can seek God for their answers in any circumstance. Ultimately, a firm hope and trust in God...

Forgiveness brings us new life

Everybody agrees that forgiving others is a good thing to do and many sincerely wish to practice it. However, it is natural to struggle with forgiving others, or perhaps think that we have forgiven someone but still privately hang on to some small grudge. (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 释放饶恕 | 繁體中文 > 釋放饒恕)  ...

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Why mentors need attitude checks

Mentoring is never about us. It’s not our skills or our success in getting others to “perform” to our expectations. It’s about pointing others towards God Almighty for all the issues and in all the areas of their lives and allowing the Holy Spirit to work in their lives. As...

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Praying for the salvation of loved ones

Are you feeling discouraged that you have been praying for someone’s salvation but they have yet to know Jesus as their personal Lord and Saviour? Does it seem as if you haven’t witnessed much change? Don’t give up praying! The key to truly loving someone like God does is to keep hoping...

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Important mentoring principles: TIPS

TIPS is an acronym for mentors who are Transparent, Intentional, Praying and Strategic. It is an easy way to remember four important mentoring principles.  (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 基督徒辅导 | 繁體中文 > 基督徒辅导)   1. Transparent Mentors should be prepared to be transparent and vulnerable with other people. Sharing some of our own...

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Who shouldn’t mentor?

No one is perfect and neither are mentors. As role models, however, mentors should uphold certain qualities. Because of the impact we can have on other people’s lives, it is wise to uphold a few practical and godly conditions for mentoring.   1 Timothy 3: 2-4, 7 Now the overseer is...

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How to identify and find a mentor

We all need someone to walk alongside us in our Christian faith who will help us grow closer to God. It is especially helpful if we are mentored by good Christian role models who are spiritually mature and sound in their understanding of God’s word and His character. How do we...

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Useful listening skills for mentors

Jesus spent a lot of time listening to people. He didn’t just listen to the words that people said, He also observed the conditions of their hearts. What can we learn from Jesus? Here are some useful listening skills for mentors. (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 如何用心聆听 | 繁體中文 > 如何用心聆聽)   Matthew...

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Questions that guide a mentee’s self-discovery

Our role as spiritual mentors is to facilitate our mentees’ “self-discovery” and help gently guide them to discover God’s truth and will for their lives. We can ask open-ended questions to guide a mentee and leave the rest to the Holy Spirit. He will counsel, convict and guide our mentees....

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What to avoid in mentoring relationships

Mentoring someone takes some measure of wisdom and discernment. There are certainly some things we ought to avoid in mentoring relationships.  (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 拙劣的辅导 | 繁體中文 > 拙劣的輔導)   Quick questions to ask ourselves No matter how pressing a mentee’s request may sound like, we need to take a step back and ask...

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Ground rules in mentoring

Establishing a set of ground rules for your mentoring relationship at the onset is just a way of reassuring your mentee that some basic expectations will be met, both ways. As you commit to your mentee, he or she will be expected to do the same for you.  (See Chinese...

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How to set spiritual goals in mentoring relationships

God’s first commandment is to love Him. Hence, our ultimate goal in mentoring a believer is to show him or her how to love God and not just to elicit some behavioural changes. We may set goals that are behavioural in nature, but our ultimate aim to for them to...

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God’s promises

How wonderful it is to pray with confidence in God’s ‘precious and very great promises’ for us. The Creator of everything in this universe has given us a part of His divine nature by having His Holy Spirit live in us. With the Spirit of wisdom, peace, hope and joy inside...

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How to avoid burn-out as a mentor

The Bible promises us that when we hope in the Lord, we will run and not grow weary. If mentors burn-out and no longer serve our Father in Heaven with joy and focus, then we need to ask ourselves if we’re giving ourselves enough rest – or if our issues...

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Jesus frees designer from inferiority complex

N is a designer who built up her own retail brand. In spite of her success, she struggled with a deep inferiority complex that began as a child. Here is how she learnt to start a new life in Christ, free of accusations from her past. Praise God! Growing up,...

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Jesus sets architect free from self-hatred

C is an architect who followed Jesus faithfully for 23 years, serving on mission trips all around the world – from South America to China and Cambodia. Here is her story of how she was finally delivered from a secret life of self-hatred and a habit of self-harm. Praise God!...