Jesus frees banker from the work of a Jezebel spirit
C noticed similar destructive patterns in his romantic relationships. Here is his testimony of how Jesus lovingly pointed him to Himself as the Source of love, after removing several spiritual strongholds that were rooted in how his mother relates to his father. Praise God.
Growing up, I rarely thought of myself as having any problems, particularly relationally.
I live in a ‘healthy” family of four, which includes my parents and my brother. Both my parents are breadwinners, with mom running the household as dad takes a passive role. That has always been the family norm. Through my mom’s open criticism towards dad, my brother and I learnt from a young age that he wasn’t capable of connecting emotionally and that we should learn how not to be like him.
All the while, I have judged my dad for his lack of connection and willingness to teach us.
My resentment towards him grew as I attributed a lot of my failures to his lack of involvement in my life, including being bullied in school. Mom, on the other hand, was my counsel. She provided advice on many of the problems I faced growing up. We connected intellectually and I felt comfortable communicating that way.
Dating has been an important goal for me.
I started dating in university to experience being “in-love” and sex, as an expression of it. Soon after I began dating, my recurring relational troubles started. My dates almost universally complained about that they felt judged by me. Starting with my first girlfriend, all my relationships would come to an abrupt end.
In 2012, I began attending church due to a sudden health issue and a realisation that I need God. It has been a life-changing experience and my life has taken many positive turns. My dating issues, however, did not go away even though I started to date Christians. My girlfriend complained that I was being overly judgemental and critical. All the while, I managed to find ways to justify these problems due to her character flaws.
I relieved myself of responsibility for the judgments I made.
As a result of this recurring relationship issue, I decided to go through a cleansing prayer to help identify and resolve my relational problems stemming from my background.
At the beginning of the session, my prayer counselor directed me to draw out a list of wrong thinking patterns that I had that were against the Bible’s teaching. As we did this, it soon emerged that I have thinking patterns that centre around “stability” and “judgmentalism”.
Backtracking to my past, stability is highly valued in my family.
Many of my relatives lived through periods of poverty or famine. Ensuring stability has been a multi-generational family “commandment”. As we revisited the Bible on what Jesus’s life was like, it became clear to me that Jesus didn’t preach on stability nor did He even seek it. Instead, He completely surrendered to God’s will, irrespective of His circumstances.
In order to sabotage me, the enemy has been directing me to focus on stability, hence detracting me from having a right understanding of God’s will in my life.
I also realised that such a focus on stability created a silent restraint on my emotions.
My family implicitly avoids any emotional rifts, as these are considered signs of instability. Through several role plays in the session, I realised I have difficulty connecting with and expressing my true feelings.
As we prayed and dug deeper into the roots of the issue, I realised I have unmet needs in being loved and have been looking it in the wrong places, that is the world. This led me to be involved in some destructive relationships. The prayer counselor then guided me to revisit the ultimate answer to love and being loved – God Himself, who has been and will be with me forever.
My other thinking pattern of being judgemental became stronger when I started working.
I prided myself in my “insights”. With knowledge, I can accurately judge things and “help” others. Moreoever, I realised that by observing the interactions between my mother and father, I had learnt to relate judgementally with my girlfriend (and ex-girlfriends). This wasn’t love at all. This thinking pattern possibly developed from a young age when I learnt to love through management and performance from my mother. As a likely result, I feel anxious and afraid inside, leading to performance and people-pleasing behaviours.
Such thinking dethroned God and elevated myself – and motivated my self-reliance.
The patterns that resulted from my family resembles the work of a Jezebel spirit, which is a spirit of control and manipulation that uses women to dominate their husbands and control their “kingdoms”. We cast out this demon from my life in Jesus’ name that day.
Overall, the cleansing prayer helped me identify the roots of a lot of my thinking patterns and the evil that has been at work in my life. Some of these were truly revelational. I was honestly quite shocked that I was blinded for this long and grieved over some of these realities that I have lived with.
By actively praying to break these generational and relational curses, and to cast out the evil spirits in Jesus’ name, I began to experience a new freedom and reconnection towards my long lost, dormant feelings of pain and tiredness over constantly performing to work to achieve stability – an impossible goal.
I have been longing for perfect love but was unaware that God has loved me deeply the whole time.
I do not have to be in control all the time. God has my back and His hand is around me. I also regained consciousness over the meaning of love and being loved, with a renewed understanding towards connecting with my significant others, such as my family and my girlfriend. For love that comes without judgment – I can let go and let God work through me.
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