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Healthy Christian fellowship groups

Healthy Christian fellowships provide safe places for believers to gather regularly and grow in their personal relationships with God. Some communities emphasise Bible study while others are activity based. Whatever the case, the best groups are ones where participants feel safe to be challenged in their faith and will lovingly...

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When to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ when serving others

It is not always the tough times that leave us fatigued, but when we seem to be doing lots of good things. In serving others, we are not meant to become “spiritually unwell”. How do we end up in such unhealthy situations, and how do we come out of them graciously?...

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Important steps in spiritual growth

In healthy Christian mentoring relationships, we will cover almost every aspect of a person’s life. It is perfectly normal not to feel equipped to address every issue or question. Mentors can still encourage others along their different stages of spiritual growth.   1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV  Therefore encourage one another and...

如何指出他人的罪

What a healthy discussion about sin looks like

Turning away from one’s sinful ways is a matter of the heart, rather than the head. So a heart-to-heart discussion about sin with a mentee is best done in love. The conviction of the heart is much more effective than a factual legalistic discussion when it comes to change. (See...

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How to address a mentee’s deep personal struggles

There are Christians who struggle with addictions, fears, self-doubt, anxieties, resentments, mistrust, explosive anger or depression – perhaps for years. It can be discouraging to mentor someone with such deep personal struggles. It would be wrong, however, to give up on them. The Holy Spirit has the power to heal and...

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How to encourage someone to serve or lead

We are all called to be in the ministry of reconciling people to God. Can we picture our mentee hosting a fellowship group, running a prayer roster, facilitating a Bible study or mentoring someone else? It is imperative that those we mentor step up to serve and lead God’s ministries.   2...

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Testimony

Everyone who calls themselves a Christian is in essence a teacher of the faith, because we represent God to the outside world. What we say and do is a testimony to our faith and beliefs. To honour our Heavenly Father’s great love and compassion for all mankind, let us represent...

How to help a mentee through spiritual stagnation

Sometimes, we hear people say, “I feel spiritually dry”. There are many possible reasons for spiritual stagnation. We could have hit a “spiritual roadblock” that causes us to stumble. There may be areas of unrepented sins in our lives. Other times, we simply neglect to invest in our spiritual health.  ...

How to encourage someone to rely on God first

When someone turns to us for advice, we need to be careful not to give any. If we cannot predict what will happen in the next 36 hours, how can we be sure that we know the best way forward? Only God has all the answers.   Psalm 147:5 Great...

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How to encourage someone who’s disheartened

We have all been discouraged or disheartened in our Christian walk at one time or another. When a mentee approaches us for encouragement, it is a great opportunity to show them how they can seek God for their answers in any circumstance. Ultimately, a firm hope and trust in God...

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Important mentoring principles: TIPS

TIPS is an acronym for mentors who are Transparent, Intentional, Praying and Strategic. It is an easy way to remember four important mentoring principles.  (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 基督徒辅导 | 繁體中文 > 基督徒辅导)   1. Transparent Mentors should be prepared to be transparent and vulnerable with other people. Sharing some of our own...

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Who shouldn’t mentor?

No one is perfect and neither are mentors. As role models, however, mentors should uphold certain qualities. Because of the impact we can have on other people’s lives, it is wise to uphold a few practical and godly conditions for mentoring.   1 Timothy 3: 2-4, 7 Now the overseer is...

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How to identify and find a mentor

We all need someone to walk alongside us in our Christian faith who will help us grow closer to God. It is especially helpful if we are mentored by good Christian role models who are spiritually mature and sound in their understanding of God’s word and His character. How do we...

如何用心聆聽

Useful listening skills for mentors

Jesus spent a lot of time listening to people. He didn’t just listen to the words that people said, He also observed the conditions of their hearts. What can we learn from Jesus? Here are some useful listening skills for mentors. (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 如何用心聆听 | 繁體中文 > 如何用心聆聽)   Matthew...

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Questions that guide a mentee’s self-discovery

Our role as spiritual mentors is to facilitate our mentees’ “self-discovery” and help gently guide them to discover God’s truth and will for their lives. We can ask open-ended questions to guide a mentee and leave the rest to the Holy Spirit. He will counsel, convict and guide our mentees....

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What to avoid in mentoring relationships

Mentoring someone takes some measure of wisdom and discernment. There are certainly some things we ought to avoid in mentoring relationships.  (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 拙劣的辅导 | 繁體中文 > 拙劣的輔導)   Quick questions to ask ourselves No matter how pressing a mentee’s request may sound like, we need to take a step back and ask...

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Ground rules in mentoring

Establishing a set of ground rules for your mentoring relationship at the onset is just a way of reassuring your mentee that some basic expectations will be met, both ways. As you commit to your mentee, he or she will be expected to do the same for you.  (See Chinese...

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How to set spiritual goals in mentoring relationships

God’s first commandment is to love Him. Hence, our ultimate goal in mentoring a believer is to show him or her how to love God and not just to elicit some behavioural changes. We may set goals that are behavioural in nature, but our ultimate aim to for them to...

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How to avoid burn-out as a mentor

The Bible promises us that when we hope in the Lord, we will run and not grow weary. If mentors burn-out and no longer serve our Father in Heaven with joy and focus, then we need to ask ourselves if we’re giving ourselves enough rest – or if our issues...