Tagged: parents

Tag: parents

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Jesus reveals wrong views about God to manager

C works in his family business and subconsciously sought to win his parents’ approval in every way. The pressure he felt led him to turn to pornography for comfort. Here is his testimony of realising that God’s love is different from his parents’ love and that he does not need...

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Rejection can lead us to form idols out of pain

Neuroscience has shown that social rejection sets off similar brain signals as physical wounds, so it feels just as real, but we will remember the pain of rejection more intensely than physical trauma. When unresolved and unconfessed, our painful memories of rejection can lead us to develop fleshly impulses that...

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Fostering teamwork in marriage

Marriages suffer when husbands and wives don’t see each other as playing by the same team rules. The challenge is that everyone received their training in different families of origin. How can we find the best game strategy for us to win together as husband and wife, rather than dispute...

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Jesus heals manager’s grief over parental pressures

A didn’t realise that her subconscious need to constantly win other people’s approval stemmed from feeling that her parents do not fully accept her. Here is her testimony of receiving God’s comfort and affirmation and releasing her suppressed pain. Praise God! Even though I was going through the motions of being...

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Filial piety (孝, xiào), playing by Confucius’ family rules

The Confucian belief of filial piety (孝, xiào) teaches entire societies to respect one’s parents, elders, and ancestors. Such traditions run through virtually all Chinese families. Confucianism has been embraced for its ability to foster harmonious households and societies through the implicit influence over individuals. Disavowing any of its man-made practices...

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Jesus teaches mother how to extend grace

V is married with two children and has been a Christian for 20 years. Here is her testimony of how God helped her to overcome her spiritual pride and learn what it means to be a godly wife and mother. Praise God! I had a lot of Bible knowledge but...

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4 ways we unknowingly idolise our parents

Anyone who sets a benchmark for how we live our lives becomes our idol – and that includes our parents. Whether we accept or avoid their desires and patterns, our focus is invariably fixed on people, rather than on our Heavenly Father. Earthly fathers and mothers become our idols when they...

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Jesus reveals spiritual blindspot to charity advisor

O was born into a Christian family and assumed her parents had all the answers on life and faith. Here is her testimony of realising that no human being can set the standard for perfect love, holiness and grace. Only God can. O has now learnt to worship her Heavenly...

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Crippling effects of conditional parental acceptance

We experience a deep rest and peace in our souls when we feel fully accepted. As adults, we can weather most types of rejection. It is the perceived lack of total acceptance from our own parents that is possibly the hardest to overcome.   Conditional acceptance from our parents Conditional...

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Toxic parents who bring us pain

God calls us to honour our parents. What if they are also the source of our greatest pain? Some parents rule their families through poisonous manipulation, intimidation and fear. This leaves many with conflicted emotions; frustration, anger, resentment, desperation, guilt, respect and affection towards their parents. How can we reconcile our...

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Breaking generational curses

Every family is defined by its biological and spiritual roots. Nowadays, we don’t make much effort to examine our family tree or try to understand our spiritual heritage. If we did, we may notice the passing of blessings or curses from one generation to another. How do we break generational...

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Understanding discipleship under Jesus

In a world that promotes self-interest, the idea of discipleship is not always popular. Why follow someone else’s belief system when we can dictate life on our own terms? Christian discipleship is even more at odds with the world because Jesus said that His disciples must follow Him at all...

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Jesus frees tech manager from guilt

R works in technology. No matter what happened to him, it seemed that joy and peace were not meant to be his. Here is his testimony of him finding freedom through Jesus to be released from his prison of guilt and condemnation. Praise God! For years, I felt like I...

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Parent wounds need to be healed

All of us remember some distressing childhood experience with our parents where we felt unprotected, afraid, abandoned, neglected, rejected or ridiculed etc. Research shows us that the impact of parent wounds can last a lifetime if these are not properly addressed.   Psychoanalytic psychotherapist, Douglas LaBier, says in Psychology Today that we...

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Names can bless or curse

Our names are significant, because they reflect our parents’ thoughts about and desires for us. Out of their hearts, they can unintentionally speak a blessing or a curse over us.   Luke 6:45 ESV  The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil...