Tagged: pain

Tag: pain

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5 lies that keep us spiritually stuck 

Years of abuse, neglect, betrayal or rejection can lead us to develop self-protective mechanisms to mask the pain we feel. The fear of being vulnerable and risking more pain prevents us from seeking help. If we do not know how to go to God for relief, we remain stuck in a dull existence,...

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Praying for healing

With great love and compassion, Jesus healed everyone who sought Him for any disability, illness, and disease. He never turned anyone away. Yet not everyone who prays for healing in Jesus’ name receives it. What blocks healing and how are we to understand healing from a biblical perspective?   Matthew 9:35-36...

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Retraining our anger triggers

Anger can set off hot emotions and physical reactions in our bodies. Anger is usually triggered when we believe that someone is being unfair, unkind or unacceptable. If we cannot help but get angry at even slight agitations, we might need to ask God to show us the reasons why....

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Helping emotionally draining people

As believers in Christ, we are to bear each other’s burdens. Sometimes, it can be overwhelming when someone constantly dumps all of their emotional pain and garbage onto us. How do we ensure that we do not become overloaded and burdened by emotionally draining people when caring for others in the Christian...

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Toxic parents who bring us pain

God calls us to honour our parents. What if they are also the source of our greatest pain? Some parents rule their families through poisonous manipulation, intimidation and fear. This leaves many with conflicted emotions; frustration, anger, resentment, desperation, guilt, respect and affection towards their parents. How can we reconcile our...

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Emotional suppression is ungodly and harmful

Self-control is a good thing, emotional suppression is not. What is the difference? Emotional self-control chooses when and how we release our emotions. Emotional suppression hides our emotions and won’t release them at all. Unfortunately, negative emotions don’t go away, no matter how hard we suppress them. They simply get...

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Finding God’s promises in our pain

Psalm 22:34 ESV  For he has not ignored or belittled the suffering of the needy. He has not turned his back on them, but has listened to their cries for help. Pain can be a powerful teacher. It offers valuable lessons on: Endurance and focus Wisdom  Empathy Humility What we...

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Self-encouragement

We all need some encouragement. There will be days we face conflicts, misunderstandings, challenging conversations, impossible deadlines or struggle with finances. Whatever the case is, we can thankfully go to God’s promises and declare them over ourselves. Many of the psalms that King David wrote were prayers of encouragement to...

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Parent wounds need to be healed

All of us remember some distressing childhood experience with our parents where we felt unprotected, afraid, abandoned, neglected, rejected or ridiculed etc. Research shows us that the impact of parent wounds can last a lifetime if these are not properly addressed.   Psychoanalytic psychotherapist, Douglas LaBier, says in Psychology Today that we...

Forgiving others

Offences happen when people sin against each other and against God. There is no sinless person on this earth and there is no one in this world who has not been offended. We all have someone in our lives we need to forgive. Forgiving is hard, as we struggle with our...

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Jesus frees lecturer from anger

W is a lecturer who struggled with pride and anger for many years. Here is her testimony of being set free from the fear and pain from her childhood by forgiving those who hurt her. Praise God!  When my counsellor suggested I forgive my mother, I refused. When I was...

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Depression

Many great men in the Bible had at times, felt overwhelmed and hopeless. Even Jesus said his sorrow felt like death. God can truly sympathise with our sufferings. In the midst of our darkness, God promises to be with us. He will strengthen and protect us when we turn our entire...

Facing people who do evil

As followers of Jesus Christ, how are we to interact with people who indulge in wickedness and treachery? We live in a time where evil and injustice are becoming more prolific and it is all too easy to label people as “good” or “bad”. How should we choose to view the...

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Suffering

No one enjoys suffering. Yet we find that followers of Jesus Christ develop greater spiritual maturity and strength through endurance training in the midst of pain and suffering.   A prayer to cry out to God in our suffering “Dear Heavenly Father, I seek to honour You in every area...

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How God uses suffering in our lives

Suffering is like the chemotherapy that destroys the cancer of sinfulness in our lives. We can emerge from the “treatment” free of a particular type of “cancer” such as pride, fear or rebellion, or we can fall back into the deathly sickness of sin when we don’t learn the lessons...

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Church wounds

No one is perfect. Believers do make mistakes that hurt their fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. To thrive in authentic godly church communities, we need draw healthy boundaries and be shrewd about whom we allow into our inner circles. Additionally, we must ensure that Satan does not use our wounds...

Grief

It’s never easy to know what to say when a friend is grieving; whether they are grieving over the loss of a relationship, the end of a career, an unexpected physical disability or the death of a loved one or pet. Anyone experiencing grief deserves to be treated with empathy,...

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Jesus sets banker free from shame

L is a banker who was successful on the outside but was filled with anger and shame on the inside. Here is her testimony of how she learnt to break free from her pain through repentance and embraced all that God has prepared for her. Praise God! I was in...

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Betrayal

Have you ever felt let down by people you trust and love? Perhaps you have been betrayed by family, friends or colleagues at work. Jesus was also betrayed by those He loved, cared for and served with. Praise God that He empathises with our personal pain. Let’s lift up our...

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Unhealed trauma affects our spiritual growth

Events such as divorce, bullying, rejection, parental neglect, betrayal or abuse are all traumatic. Unhealed trauma has a negative impact on our thought processes and emotional health for a long time. Eventually, our spiritual life also suffers.   The Merriam Webster dictionary defines trauma as “a very difficult or unpleasant experience...