Category: Skills

Skills

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Instructing one another spiritually

As believers, we are called to instruct and correct one another. When God created us, He wired our brains for empathy. A signal goes off in us when we watch other people being destroyed. Each time we submit to the Holy Spirit and use this God-given instinct to lovingly edify...

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Helping emotionally draining people

As believers in Christ, we are to bear each other’s burdens. Sometimes, it can be overwhelming when someone constantly dumps all of their emotional pain and garbage onto us. How do we ensure that we do not become overloaded and burdened by emotionally draining people when caring for others in the Christian...

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Important steps in spiritual growth

In healthy Christian mentoring relationships, we will cover almost every aspect of a person’s life. It is perfectly normal not to feel equipped to address every issue or question. Mentors can still encourage others along their different stages of spiritual growth.   1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV  Therefore encourage one another and...

如何指出他人的罪

What a healthy discussion about sin looks like

Turning away from one’s sinful ways is a matter of the heart, rather than the head. So a heart-to-heart discussion about sin with a mentee is best done in love. The conviction of the heart is much more effective than a factual legalistic discussion when it comes to change. (See...

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How to address a mentee’s deep personal struggles

There are Christians who struggle with addictions, fears, self-doubt, anxieties, resentments, mistrust, explosive anger or depression – perhaps for years. It can be discouraging to mentor someone with such deep personal struggles. It would be wrong, however, to give up on them. The Holy Spirit has the power to heal and...

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How to encourage someone to serve or lead

We are all called to be in the ministry of reconciling people to God. Can we picture our mentee hosting a fellowship group, running a prayer roster, facilitating a Bible study or mentoring someone else? It is imperative that those we mentor step up to serve and lead God’s ministries.   2...

How to help a mentee through spiritual stagnation

Sometimes, we hear people say, “I feel spiritually dry”. There are many possible reasons for spiritual stagnation. We could have hit a “spiritual roadblock” that causes us to stumble. There may be areas of unrepented sins in our lives. Other times, we simply neglect to invest in our spiritual health.  ...

How to encourage someone to rely on God first

When someone turns to us for advice, we need to be careful not to give any. If we cannot predict what will happen in the next 36 hours, how can we be sure that we know the best way forward? Only God has all the answers.   Psalm 147:5 Great...

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How to encourage someone who’s disheartened

We have all been discouraged or disheartened in our Christian walk at one time or another. When a mentee approaches us for encouragement, it is a great opportunity to show them how they can seek God for their answers in any circumstance. Ultimately, a firm hope and trust in God...

如何用心聆聽

Useful listening skills for mentors

Jesus spent a lot of time listening to people. He didn’t just listen to the words that people said, He also observed the conditions of their hearts. What can we learn from Jesus? Here are some useful listening skills for mentors. (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 如何用心聆听 | 繁體中文 > 如何用心聆聽)   Matthew...

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Questions that guide a mentee’s self-discovery

Our role as spiritual mentors is to facilitate our mentees’ “self-discovery” and help gently guide them to discover God’s truth and will for their lives. We can ask open-ended questions to guide a mentee and leave the rest to the Holy Spirit. He will counsel, convict and guide our mentees....