Category: Emotions

Emotions

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Lies that hinder a man’s emotional freedom

Many men live emotionally isolated lives because we have been taught from young to project a strong, invincible image. Boys quickly learn that it is not socially acceptable to cry or express “weaknesses” such as loneliness, helplessness, or sadness. As a result, millions of adult men struggle to process totally...

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The importance of emotional healing

Negative emotions, such as fear, shame, and grief, can be very powerful drivers of our decisions without us even being conscious of it. From a young age, we all learn to cope with our negative emotions in various ways. These can include anger, denial, perfectionism, pride, hyper-vigilance or escapism. Some...

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Hidden shame from family expectations

The word “shame” is often associated with public disgrace, humiliation or abuse. There is a form of silent shame that is less apparent but also deeply damaging. From birth, we learn about our value from how our parents interact with us. Many of us wear an invisible cloak of shame from years...

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5 lies that keep us spiritually stuck 

Years of abuse, neglect, betrayal or rejection can lead us to develop self-protective mechanisms to mask the pain we feel. The fear of being vulnerable and risking more pain prevents us from seeking help. If we do not know how to go to God for relief, we remain stuck in a dull existence,...

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Crippling effects of conditional parental acceptance

We experience a deep rest and peace in our souls when we feel fully accepted. As adults, we can weather most types of rejection. It is the perceived lack of total acceptance from our own parents that is possibly the hardest to overcome.   Conditional acceptance from our parents Conditional...

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Emotional suppression is ungodly and harmful

Self-control is a good thing, emotional suppression is not. What is the difference? Emotional self-control chooses when and how we release our emotions. Emotional suppression hides our emotions and won’t release them at all. Unfortunately, negative emotions don’t go away, no matter how hard we suppress them. They simply get...

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Parent wounds need to be healed

All of us remember some distressing childhood experience with our parents where we felt unprotected, afraid, abandoned, neglected, rejected or ridiculed etc. Research shows us that the impact of parent wounds can last a lifetime if these are not properly addressed.   Psychoanalytic psychotherapist, Douglas LaBier, says in Psychology Today that we...

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Realities behind not forgiving ourselves

All of us have something in our past that causes us great embarrassment, shame, accusation and pain. Just thinking about it is enough to make us cringe. Why do we have so much difficulty in forgiving ourselves?   Unable to forget  God promises us that once we ask Him to...

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The importance of emotional self awareness

Our emotional reactions to people, circumstances and places reveal a lot about ourselves. We may be unaware that our hidden attitudes dishonour God and idolise ourselves. Spiritual growth requires that we develop emotional self-awareness.   Fortunately, God’s Holy Spirit will also convict us when we start to give in to...

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Unhealed trauma affects our spiritual growth

Events such as divorce, bullying, rejection, parental neglect, betrayal or abuse are all traumatic. Unhealed trauma has a negative impact on our thought processes and emotional health for a long time. Eventually, our spiritual life also suffers. (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 如何辨识情感创伤的属灵影响 | 繁體中文 > 如何辨識情感創傷的屬靈影響)   The Merriam Webster dictionary defines trauma...

Forgiveness brings us new life

Everybody agrees that forgiving others is a good thing to do and many sincerely wish to practice it. However, it is natural to struggle with forgiving others, or perhaps think that we have forgiven someone but still privately hang on to some small grudge. (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 释放饶恕 | 繁體中文 > 釋放饒恕)  ...