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Filial piety (孝, xiào), playing by Confucius’ family rules

The Confucian belief of filial piety (孝, xiào) teaches entire societies to respect one’s parents, elders, and ancestors. Such traditions run through virtually all Chinese families. Confucianism has been embraced for its ability to foster harmonious households and societies through the implicit influence over individuals. Disavowing any of its man-made practices...

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4 ways we unknowingly idolise our parents

Anyone who sets a benchmark for how we live our lives becomes our idol – and that includes our parents. Whether we accept or avoid their desires and patterns, our focus is invariably fixed on people, rather than on our Heavenly Father. Earthly fathers and mothers become our idols when they...

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Cursing our parents curses us back

In anger, frustration, pain, and annoyance, we may shoot offensive and damning statements at people. Cursing, no matter how seemingly justified, goes against the Holy Spirit. He only brings patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self control. A tongue that has been poisoned with “restless evil” will curse others. The Bible teaches us not to...

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Communications that keep marriage sweet

The Bible says that we have the power to speak life or death into our marriages. The words we speak will reveal the subconscious motivations of our hearts. Our spouses will know when we speak with love or judgement towards them. Do our words ultimately build up or tear down?...

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Toxic parents who bring us pain

God calls us to honour our parents. What if they are also the source of our greatest pain? Some parents rule their families through poisonous manipulation, intimidation and fear. This leaves many with conflicted emotions; frustration, anger, resentment, desperation, guilt, respect and affection towards their parents. How can we reconcile our...

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Avoiding infections from toxic people

Wounded people with unhealed emotional poisons will inadvertently infect others with their toxins. Those who constantly defile others with their bitterness are known as toxic people. How can we love toxic people while avoiding ungodly infections from them?   Hebrews 12:15 ESV  See to it that no one fails to...

Facing people who do evil

As followers of Jesus Christ, how are we to interact with people who indulge in wickedness and treachery? We live in a time where evil and injustice are becoming more prolific and it is all too easy to label people as “good” or “bad”. How should we choose to view the...

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Learning to speak the truth in love

We called to “speak the truth in love”. Indeed, there are Christians whose words are gracious and loving all of the time. Their speech is packed with authority and wisdom, yet is delivered with tender humility. They are always well received and welcomed – even when they are admonishing or...

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6 crucial lessons about marriage

The Bible calls us to honour our marriages, yet nothing in our lifetimes really prepares us for marriage. What exactly does it mean to honour our marriages in real, practical terms?   Marriage is a covenant that unites two differently shaped lives to become one entity. Friction and compromise are inevitable. Let’s...

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Living to glorify God

Our desire to build a secure nest egg consumes a lot of our energy and time. But what if we lost everything overnight? The Bible reminds us that worldly possessions will never last, compared to heavenly treasure. We build treasures in heaven by bringing God glory in everything we do....

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How to respond to questions on same-sex attraction

If we ever find ourselves in a situation where a believer confides in us that he or she is unsure of their sexual orientation and is struggling with same sex attraction, we must at all times, respond in love without compromising the biblical truth. Here is why.   Popular culture pushes...

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Surviving work politics

Jesus was plagued by politics. Everywhere that He went, there were people who didn’t like His agenda and spelt a lot of time gossiping, maligning Him and plotting for his downfall. Does this sound anything like our workplaces? What can we learn about dealing with office politics?   In any occupation...