Category: Mentor

Mentor

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Following Jesus’ examples in ministry

When Jesus began His public ministry on earth, He demonstrated how we are to follow His humble heart of service with many examples and testimonies. Praise God that all ministry workers, both volunteer or full time, can learn directly from the world’s perfect High Priest. We reflect Jesus’ heart best...

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Instructing one another spiritually

As believers, we are called to instruct and correct one another. When God created us, He wired our brains for empathy. A signal goes off in us when we watch other people being destroyed. Each time we submit to the Holy Spirit and use this God-given instinct to lovingly edify...

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Staying healthy when serving others in ministry

Serving others tests the purity of our hearts – and if we are truly serving others because we love God. The Bible says that if our hearts are pure and pleasing to God, we will produce good fruit. How can we ensure we serve others with the right attitude?   Colossians...

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Mistakes to avoid when serving in ministry

Jesus put aside His great power, privileges and dignity in order to come and serve us. During His time on earth, He faced various temptations and trials. Similarly, we can expect tests and conflict when we serve in Christian ministry. There are some common mistakes we can avoid when we...

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Healthy Christian fellowship groups

Healthy Christian fellowships provide safe places for believers to gather regularly and grow in their personal relationships with God. Some communities emphasise Bible study while others are activity based. Whatever the case, the best groups are ones where participants feel safe to be challenged in their faith and will lovingly...

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Helping emotionally draining people

As believers in Christ, we are to bear each other’s burdens. Sometimes, it can be overwhelming when someone constantly dumps all of their emotional pain and garbage onto us. How do we ensure that we do not become overloaded and burdened by emotionally draining people when caring for others in the Christian...

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When to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ when serving others

It is not always the tough times that leave us fatigued, but when we seem to be doing lots of good things. In serving others, we are not meant to become “spiritually unwell”. How do we end up in such unhealthy situations, and how do we come out of them graciously?...

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Important steps in spiritual growth

In healthy Christian mentoring relationships, we will cover almost every aspect of a person’s life. It is perfectly normal not to feel equipped to address every issue or question. Mentors can still encourage others along their different stages of spiritual growth.   1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV  Therefore encourage one another and...

如何指出他人的罪

What a healthy discussion about sin looks like

Turning away from one’s sinful ways is a matter of the heart, rather than the head. So a heart-to-heart discussion about sin with a mentee is best done in love. The conviction of the heart is much more effective than a factual legalistic discussion when it comes to change. (See...

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How to address a mentee’s deep personal struggles

There are Christians who struggle with addictions, fears, self-doubt, anxieties, resentments, mistrust, explosive anger or depression – perhaps for years. It can be discouraging to mentor someone with such deep personal struggles. It would be wrong, however, to give up on them. The Holy Spirit has the power to heal and...

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How to encourage someone to serve or lead

We are all called to be in the ministry of reconciling people to God. Can we picture our mentee hosting a fellowship group, running a prayer roster, facilitating a Bible study or mentoring someone else? It is imperative that those we mentor step up to serve and lead God’s ministries.   2...

How to help a mentee through spiritual stagnation

Sometimes, we hear people say, “I feel spiritually dry”. There are many possible reasons for spiritual stagnation. We could have hit a “spiritual roadblock” that causes us to stumble. There may be areas of unrepented sins in our lives. Other times, we simply neglect to invest in our spiritual health.  ...

How to encourage someone to rely on God first

When someone turns to us for advice, we need to be careful not to give any. If we cannot predict what will happen in the next 36 hours, how can we be sure that we know the best way forward? Only God has all the answers.   Psalm 147:5 Great...

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How to encourage someone who’s disheartened

We have all been discouraged or disheartened in our Christian walk at one time or another. When a mentee approaches us for encouragement, it is a great opportunity to show them how they can seek God for their answers in any circumstance. Ultimately, a firm hope and trust in God...

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Why mentors need attitude checks

Mentoring is never about us. It’s not our skills or our success in getting others to “perform” to our expectations. It’s about pointing others towards God Almighty for all the issues and in all the areas of their lives and allowing the Holy Spirit to work in their lives. As...

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Important mentoring principles: TIPS

TIPS is an acronym for mentors who are Transparent, Intentional, Praying and Strategic. It is an easy way to remember four important mentoring principles.  (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 基督徒辅导 | 繁體中文 > 基督徒辅导)   1. Transparent Mentors should be prepared to be transparent and vulnerable with other people. Sharing some of our own...

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Who shouldn’t mentor?

No one is perfect and neither are mentors. As role models, however, mentors should uphold certain qualities. Because of the impact we can have on other people’s lives, it is wise to uphold a few practical and godly conditions for mentoring.   1 Timothy 3: 2-4, 7 Now the overseer is...

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How to identify and find a mentor

We all need someone to walk alongside us in our Christian faith who will help us grow closer to God. It is especially helpful if we are mentored by good Christian role models who are spiritually mature and sound in their understanding of God’s word and His character. How do we...

如何用心聆聽

Useful listening skills for mentors

Jesus spent a lot of time listening to people. He didn’t just listen to the words that people said, He also observed the conditions of their hearts. What can we learn from Jesus? Here are some useful listening skills for mentors. (See Chinese versions: 简体中文 > 如何用心聆听 | 繁體中文 > 如何用心聆聽)   Matthew...

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Questions that guide a mentee’s self-discovery

Our role as spiritual mentors is to facilitate our mentees’ “self-discovery” and help gently guide them to discover God’s truth and will for their lives. We can ask open-ended questions to guide a mentee and leave the rest to the Holy Spirit. He will counsel, convict and guide our mentees....